Nonviolent Communication
Marshall B. Rosenberg · 1999
A protocol for saying what happened, what you feel, what you need and what you request — without the judgement layer.
Nexora explains and applies the ideas in this book. Based on ideas from the original work — read it for the argument in the author's own words.
What are you trying to figure out right now?
Nexora will answer your situation using the ideas in Nonviolent Communication alongside every other source that applies.
The core idea
Most conflict escalates because observation, evaluation and demand get compressed into one sentence. Separating them changes the outcome.
The mental models
Observation vs evaluation
Describe what a camera would record, before interpreting it.
Needs beneath positions
People argue positions; agreement lives at the level of needs.
What actually matters
- Requests must be concrete, present-tense and refusable.
- Empathy before problem-solving, always in that order.
Practical applications
Say the observation and the feeling separately in your next difficult conversation.
Make one request the other person can decline without penalty.
Questions worth asking
- 01What need is behind my irritation?
- 02Is my request specific enough to be acted on?
Go deeper
Nexora explains the ideas. The original work is still the deeper path — here's where to find it.